Coming from a place of need. I wondered. And then, after diligent detective work, I discovered. It's social work jargon. Who'd a thunk it? So let's look at a place of need to find out what we're dealing with, and perhaps in the process we can become fuller and deeper beings of the human type. And following that, allow me to indulge my sense of humor by showing what a place of need is in real terms.
Jo Cavanaugh, "If only it was that easy, wouldn't everybody do it?"
As caregivers, you and I are in exceptional circumstances. We didn't plan on being caregivers, yet here we are. And you know what, I'm no Pollyanna, and it's not always fun being a caregiver.
So how did I make up my mind to be happy even when circumstances are beyond my control?
Let me be honest it wasn't easy.
That's why I want to share this with you, because I've been there. I know how hard it is to be a caregiver for a loved one. I know how hard it is to keep my chin up, to keep smiling, and to carry on when I'm tired, scared, and feeling guilty.
Hi Jo! I just listened to all three tapes. They are fabulous. I was extremely impressed by the content. I would definitely recommend them. I found the women (especially Rhonda and the woman on tape 3 who was struggling with her weight) to be really brave. And listening to the process of working with them was very enlightening and encouraging. I was also really moved by the insight Judy brought in about how Rhonda was coming from a place of need rather than abundance.
That was special, wasn't it? I'd like to thank both the ladies above for sharing with us. Sharing, and I dare say, caring. Yes, sharing and caring.
On now to more sharing and caring, three stories about sharing and caring and being beaten, stabbed and kicked to death in the process. Ah, and before I forget, it's all your fault for being rich and uncaring and unsharing enough.
First, and 81 year old nun gets the boot. Hit the blue words for a link to the full story.
Jonathan Kay on the death of Montreal nun Estelle Lauzon, and the perils of being nice
On Monday, 81-year-old Montreal nun Estelle Lauzon was battered to death in the city's Maison de la Providence convent. Lauzon was known to work in confined quarters with the city's destitute. Since her murder, police have arrested a 31-year-old man who resides in a halfway house for former drug abusers located in a wing of the convent. We don't know for certain what happened on Monday. But the man's arrest suggests Lauzon may well have been beaten by one of the men she was trying to save from his demons.
That was number one. Let's stop right there and look at the mainstream media's take on this before proceeding to the guy who said no to four panhandlers who then stabbed him to death.
Don't blame panhandlers for handful of violent crimes, advocates say
By SEAN PATRICK SULLIVAN
TORONTO (CP) - The defenders of Canada's urban poor lashed out against legislative efforts to curb aggressive begging Monday as a handful of violent attacks in Toronto and Vancouver raised fresh questions about whether governments should be trying to control pushy panhandlers.
Existing laws against "aggressive" panhandling create an unreasonable fear of people already marginalized by society, anti-poverty activists argued following the death of a man from St. Catharines, Ont., who was beaten and stabbed by four people last week after refusing their requests for money.
"When there is a terribly violent incident committed by someone who is a panhandler, then all panhandlers are painted with the same brush," said Beric German of Toronto's Street Health Community Nursing Foundation.
Ontario and British Columbia both have a Safe Streets Act on the books which bans "aggressive" or abusive panhandling and prohibits people from soliciting money at select locations like bank machines and bus stops.
Toronto police Const. George Schuurman defended Ontario's legislation, introduced in 1999 by the former Conservative government, as an effective tool for officers dealing with aggressive panhandlers.
In 2006, more than 900 tickets were issued to people in Toronto following complaints from the community and proactive work by officers, Schuurman said.
Patrick Parnaby, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Guelph, said the recent attacks in Vancouver and Toronto have little to do with panhandling.
"The irony of this whole thing is that we already have laws that deal with people who assault, who assault in groups, who brandish weapons on the street," Parnaby said.
"It has nothing to do with their occupation or status. You don't even have to talk about panhandlers. You have one citizen assaulting another citizen, and that happens every day."
Ontario Premier Dalton McGuinty warned against overreacting to the Toronto attack, saying it is not necessarily a symptom of something more serious.
Still, Gaytan Heroux of the Ontario Coalition Against Poverty argued that the province has responded to the social issue of panhandling and homelessness by repressing street people.
Whipping up fears about panhandlers without discussing the root problems breeds discrimination and prejudice, he said.
Parnaby said Ontario's former Conservative government vilified panhandlers in the name of winning votes eight years ago.
"(Squeegee kids) were (compared) to wild dogs, insects, a plague . . . all this sort of rhetoric that does nothing to help the public understand a very complicated issue, but on the other hand, elevates levels of anxiety."
No one wanted to deal with the complexity of the panhandling issue, Parnaby said, so authorities instead used an expedient measure of crime control.
"You can't come up with solutions to these issues in a 30-second sound bite, and crime pays," he said. "So get on the bandwagon, condemn them as criminals, and walk away the victor."
Then there's the fellow walking down the street who was beaten and stabbed to death by four people coming from a place of need. It was a restaurant where they'd just eaten and had too much to drink before turning to begging for money on the street.
It was my initial assumption that the following comment is a piece of low sarcasm, but now that I think about it for a moment and compare it to some of the commentators I've encountered here and elsewhere I think the writer is simply a fucking idiot-- just like he seems to be on the face of things. He writes:
passin' thru: "Gee whiz with all the social program "budget cuts", the exponentially increasing outsourcing of jobs in deference to "globalization", the emptying of psychiatric facilities...can anyone really be surprised desperate, ruined, or mentally ill folks start "losing it" more and more on their perceived middle to upper class tormentors?!?! Wake up folks, "neo-feudalism" is insidiously taking hold assisted by its' accomplice "savage capitalism", the drones of gubberment doing all the dirty frontline work..."
To which the next comment is:
Unimpressed: "Yes, let's just blame these murders on the victims. That seems fair. Don't hold the perps responsible for murder, that would be unkind. Are you already a Canadian judge or still waiting for your appointment?"
It's in response to this story from a few days ago:
Man dies, four panhandlers charged after stabbing
A man who police say was stabbed by one or more panhandlers earlier this week has died.
Police said 32-year-old Ross Hammond, who was stabbed Thursday after an argument escalated into violence, succumbed to his wounds early Saturday morning.
The victim was walking near Queen Street West and Gore Vale Avenue shortly after 12:30 a.m. with a friend when he was approached by panhandlers asking for money, Det. Sgt. Gary Giroux said during a press conference.
Giroux said the two men refused to give the suspects money, and a verbal dispute ensued.
The argument escalated and the victim was stabbed several times in the chest and back. His friend was also assaulted, Giroux said.
Four panhandlers, all in their early 20s, currently face charges of aggravated assault and weapons offences, but Giroux said he expected the charges to be upgraded in light of Hammond's death.
The following suspects are in custody in connection with the incident:
Douglas Fresh, 22;
Nicole Kish, 21;
Sarah McDermit, 22; and
Jeremy Woolley, 21
The suspects are due in court next week. Woolley is also wanted on an outstanding warrant in the U.S., Giroux said.
Charles wrote recently aobut a 91 year old man who had been giving a begging bum $5.00 each day for a week, and then, when he gave another $5.00, the bum attacked him in the lobby of the Catholic Cathedral in the center of the city. It wasn't enough.
Oh, I see it now because I read the copy at the top of the page, that these people are coming from a place of need.
It's not just sentimentality. The problem is that too many people in positions of power actually feel that these cliches are better than relying on experience and understanding of the realities of normal human life as it has alway been and will forever be. social engineering? Tehy can come up with an endless supply of cliches and sentimental platitude and cringe inducing phrases sincerely emoted in public; but there will come an angry time when reasonable people are no longer reasonable, and then, then, then, friend, we'll see the true nature of people coming from a place of murder into the streets.
Stop this rubbish now before it's too late, before people become furious and actually do go crazy and overthrow this regime of sentimental vileness that passes as society. Control it now or face a terrible consequence later, perhaps soon. Stand up and tell the sentimentalists to shut up and stay shut up. Be rude. Be intolerant. Be judgmental. The sentimental crap is all of that and far worse, so take yourself to the edge and scream before others come out and destroy what we have left of our civil society.